Financial Wellness

Can’t Stop Spending

Lately, money has been the main cause of your stress, conflict, and shame. You have an underlying belief that you’ll never have enough of it, no matter how hard you work.

You avoid checking your bank account because it feels too overwhelming, or you might overspend to soothe stress or keep up appearances – it seems like everyone else has the money to buy those things.

The way your family talked (or didn’t talk) about money growing up still influences your decisions today, causing anxiety and old habits that you struggle to break free from.

Trying To Save Every Cent

You might have grown up hearing, “We can’t afford that,” and internalized a fear of never having enough.

This has caused you to hyper-focus on saving every penny, to the point where you can’t enjoy life or feel guilty spending on yourself.

You’re planning for your future retirement, but not sure you will even want to spend that money you have worked so hard to save.

Money Issues for Couples

In your relationship, one of you is a saver who feels most secure with a healthy cushion in the bank, while the other feels alive when spending on experiences or enjoying life in the moment.

Perhaps one of you equates spending with success or love, shaping how they think about their self-worth today.

These differences have led to heated arguments that leave you both feeling unheard and misunderstood, causing you and your partner to clash overspending and saving.

Then There’s the Influence of Family

Your family may have avoided talking about money altogether because, in that household, every dollar was a source of tension.

This mentality makes you struggle when it comes to setting boundaries, whether it’s with yourself or others.

These stories don’t just fade away – they become the scripts we follow unless we consciously rewrite them.

Talking About Money Is Hard

It’s often called the last taboo for a reason – it’s tied to our deepest vulnerabilities, fears, and hopes.

In most settings or groups, it is easier to talk about sex, politics, and religion than it is to talk about paychecks.

But in therapy, we create a space where it’s okay to lay it all out, without fear of judgment.

Together, we’ll uncover those patterns that have shaped your relationship with money and work toward a healthier, more balanced approach.

Changing How You Relate to Money

Our work isn’t about budgeting or financial planning – that’s for the money managers and advisors. My focus is on the emotional and psychological side of finances.

What does money mean to you? How does it make you feel, and how is that shaping your choices?

For instance, if money causes anxiety, we might explore strategies to help you stay present and make decisions from a place of calm rather than fear.

If you feel controlled by old family messages, we’ll work to identify and challenge those beliefs.

Start Asking Hard Questions

For couples, we’ll practice active listening exercises so that you really hear each other’s values and concerns without jumping into conflict.

We’ll unpack the “why” behind your financial conflicts, such as, “What does money represent to each of you?” and “What values drive your choices?”

By helping you see each other’s perspectives, we can turn those arguments into conversations and start rebuilding trust and understanding.

Discover the Deeper Meanings

I also believe in using relatable examples to bring these issues to life. Maybe you’re that couple who can’t agree on whether to spend money on a vacation or to pay off debt first.

Instead of focusing on the surface-level conflict, we’ll dive deeper: What does that vacation represent to one of you – freedom, connection, or joy?

What does paying off debt mean to the other – security, stability, or pride? By addressing the emotions underneath, we can find solutions that honor both perspectives.

Understand How You Feel About Money

Whatever your story, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I’m here to help you untangle the emotions tied to money and build a healthier relationship – with your finances, your loved ones, and yourself.

Money isn’t just about numbers on a bank statement or credit card balances – it’s deeply tied to our emotions, values, and even our sense of self.

It can symbolize freedom, security, love, or control. And while money itself is neutral, the way we think and feel about it can profoundly impact our lives and relationships.

Rewrite Your Money Story

Money doesn’t have to control your life or your relationships. You can find balance, understanding, and even peace when it comes to finances.

Explore what’s really driving your relationship with money and start creating a new one that feels healthier and more aligned with your goals.

Reach out today, and let’s work together to make your money story one you feel good about.